Thursday, April 15, 2010

Traditions You Need To Observe

As a stand up guy it’s necessary to observe the traditions marked on your calendar.  Forget to buy your woman flowers on her birthday or congratulate your parents on their 30th anniversary, and you’ll be left in the doghouse. There are dramatic consequences for screwing up these basic ”traditions,” which is why it’s easier to remember them. However, you also must respect and abide by a set of unspoken customs that get put on the back burner more often than not. These are the day to day rituals that keep your residence in order. They are an expression of true devotion to your family, and are symbolic of the responsibility and leadership that you, as the Man of the household, must maintain. Kick yourself in the ass and make sure you follow these traditions you need to observe.

Family Dinner
Gathering around the dinner table each night with your family is important for many reasons. It’s a time when stories are shared and memories are made. With a demanding job. It’s easy to lose track of the details of your family. This is your chance to fill in the gaps and make up for lost time. For you true men, dinner is more than a meal. It is one of those traditions you need to observe and make sure that everyone takes part in. Whether you cook the pasta or simply serve drinks, everyone in your family should have a role in the preparation of this feast. The key to a stable household is strong family ties.

Vacations
Taking a vacation to the same destination each year will create a bond between your family. However, these trips should not be fluff excursions to Maui or the Caribbean. Tropical islands and plush resorts won’t give your children a perspective on where you came from. Take your family back to the small town or village where you or your parents grew up. The same village your grandparents continue to call “home.” Your children can’t get by there without learning a little mother tongue and following the local customs. Make sure the ones you love value their heritage and know where they came from. That’s why family centric vacations are traditions you need to observe.

The family Roles
Rites of passage should be followed to the letter. These days, kids are running over their parents left and right because they are soft. These little brats aren’t learning the fundamental skills and responsibility that are required of adults. And so what if they aren’t of legal working age? When your son turns 13, don’t give him allowance unless he does some house chore. Have your daughter fix meals and clean up the kitchen. You didn’t have it any easier, and why should they? Just remember, don’t make blind demands. Show them how to complete these tasks before you send them off on their own. If you are fixing the something in the house, bring them along and show them the ropes. Next time a pipe bursts, let them take a shot at repairing it.

Weddings/Funerals
traditions you need to observe, as in you have to attend. Both weddings and funerals offer the opportunity to not only see and spend time with friends and family, but basically, attending such events is just something you should do. Celebrate at weddings and pay your respects at funerals. All is not lost though, remember it’s important that you respect these traditions you need to observe. They are the customs that molded you into the man you are today, and these same activities will instill in your children a sense of maturity and responsibility in life.

1 comment:

  1. Yo, as for those family meals, it establishes a control centre as you know what is going on in eachothers lives, and everyone understands eachoters roles. feedback from your family is just as important as those of our customer or workforce. if they arent happy, then your business or home in this case, falls apart. people understimate the influence, power of having the head of the households presence during meal times. it is central to childrens psychological stability and discipline.

    Real talk Jero, i agree

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