The Self-Esteem Generation - Arrogant Young People

Confidence is key and no one will deny that. A guy who feels he has nothing going for him will indeed end up with nothing. Although a poor self image is a sure way to prevent success, a dude with an abundance of esteem might not be aiding his cause either. I’ve noticed the new breed of professionals hitting the ranks all have the same disposition an overly positive self image (i tend to feel I suffer from the same). Today's employers at times have had to use a heavy hand with some of their fresh faced employees. At times as individuals we have to realize that we can turn out to be overly confident staff, and in some instances may think that we deserve more, but can’t take the time to realize that we know nothing. You need to realize that the “self-esteem generation” comes with a full sense of unwarranted arrogance and a full shopping list of problems. Here are just a few.

Falsified Destiny

Part of what drives people to success in any business, mine or yours, is the fear of failure. When I was making my bones on the low end of the totem pole, I knew I was one step from the bottom and a whole flight of stairs from the top. But the “self-esteemers” of the world, they think it’s all going to work out. In business, and in life, you never assume you’ll find your way to the top because although the cream rises, there’s a hell of a lot of crop to pass through.

Sense of Entitlement

It’s one thing to want everything, it’s another to feel you’re entitled to it. Us young, self absorbed ambitionaries don’t realize there’s work involved. “I deserve this. I deserve that.” They deserve to get put down a little. When you’re a fresh-faced kid and you’ve only read the first chapter in the novel of life, you’re not entitled to anything except a mop and a pail.

No Recognition of Mistakes

Everyone knows part of being a man is admitting when you’re wrong, but it’s tough when you think you’re always right. The influx of self esteem is clouding kids’ recognition of their mistakes. You have to know when you screwed up, and you have to learn from those instances. Got sloppy on a job? Put the decimal in the wrong place? There’s no good that comes from taking the defensive or playing the blame game. Young guys today, it’s never their fault. They’ll be pointing the finger all the way to their unemployment...

No Self Reflection

I’m not saying you have to go to the shrink every week and spill your guts, but if there’s one person you can learn from most, it’s yourself. I’d be surprised if any of these young dudes, reflect on their previous actions, responses or decisions. But they should know it’s always good to be a little critical of yourself. You’ll improve as a worker, boss, husband, etc. I know these self involved guys are perfect the way they are, so why bother with the critiques? Just a waste of time. Right?

Constant Need for Attention

To all the vain dudes who spend the day updating their Facebook accounts, I know it’s tough to realize the world doesn’t revolve around you, but in fact, it doesn’t. When I started earning dime, as wise man told me that drawing attention to yourself could only result in a fuckers looking for dirt on you. Guys today crave it. He added nobody wants to know what your favorite shows are and nobody needs to you what you’re chirping about.

Can’t Handle Disappointment

When you think you’ve got a direct line to the top, know all there is to know and never make mistakes, it’s a hard awakening when something doesn’t go your way. We’ve all been knocked down many times before, and although it’s tough to get up, we got up nonetheless. This new breed of dudes can’t take a hit. Go in do your thing and if shit doesn't work out your way, work on it or else what should have been a minor setback could turn into early retirement.

These Guys Need to be Schooled

I know giving, my peers age and the younger cats, a positive self image is important. But let’s make sure we don’t jeopardize their actual image in the process. There are too many know it alls, too many not willing to get their hands dirty, and a bunch of dudes whose narcissism warrants a beating. Whether you’re a recent honour student graduate working as a banker, or an debt collector collecting payments for your company, it’ll only hurt your cause to have too big of a head and too little sense.

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